tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5893934976046813531.post7132595697951985139..comments2023-03-29T05:10:45.733-07:00Comments on After Matilda: A Dad's GriefMaddiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15665878580598197034noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5893934976046813531.post-55455679594348926852010-07-23T21:11:40.440-07:002010-07-23T21:11:40.440-07:00People are funny. I've had both--the 10 week ...People are funny. I've had both--the 10 week miscarriage (D&C required), and of course had Addison, who died 7 days after her birth at 38.5 weeks. After the miscarriage I was sad, no doubt about it, but I didn't even go online to seek support (and I usually go online for everything). But after losing Addison...words cannot express the deep sense of loss and sadness and longing and devastation I feel. This experience has forever colored the lens through which I see the world. And not in a good way. Nothing to be jealous of here, folks. It's like comparing a pistol shot to a nuclear bomb. But that's just my opinion based on my own experience.Rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03555672583756632794noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5893934976046813531.post-86492903670487780462010-07-23T17:03:12.156-07:002010-07-23T17:03:12.156-07:00I think K grieves in a similar fashion - we're...I think K grieves in a similar fashion - we're 4 months out and now that I'm 'ok' (i.e. not losing it) it's his turn to grieve and break down and miss Foster. And it breaks my heart every time that he only got to hold his son once for 20 minutes. <br /><br />And yes - grief is selfish. It's why friends and family who don't get it drop off. It takes work to support those who are grieving, and I believe in turn, grief builds empathy for those who are feeling the same. I am much more empathetic to other parents who have lost than I am to people who don't know this kind of pain.Sarah Hhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01885386668222230061noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5893934976046813531.post-15751452816685464432010-07-21T16:23:10.895-07:002010-07-21T16:23:10.895-07:00Their grief is very different from ours in so many...Their grief is very different from ours in so many ways, but it hurts just the same. XOMaggiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13339073098081631983noreply@blogger.com