If you know me in real life and have found this blog, please honour my wishes and don't read on. I need this place to freely write my feelings to help me to heal and if you're reading, I'll censor myself. I have no way of knowing who is reading so all I can do is trust you to honour my wishes. Thank you.

(this doesn't apply to any of my fellow mums of angels I've been lucky enough to meet in real life)

Sunday, March 7, 2010

Things to Tell Myself

The things I can control are:
* Am I eating well?
* Am I drinking enough?
* Am I sleeping enough?
* Am I doing kind things for myself?

These are the things I need to focus on. On that - just wondering what nice things others do for themselves? And to distract themselves?

I'm going to acupuncture once a week and have plans to start walking my dog each day (this has fallen by the wayside somewhere) and trying meditation. And I've watched more DVDs in the last four months than the previous couple of years.


  1. I'm glad you are taking time during each day to take care of you. :) It is definitely deserved! Like you I watch a lot of DVDs I like and I love being with my kitties. No matter what those things always make me feel good. And being with people who I love the most!

  2. Good thing to do: take good care of yourself and I'm glad your focusing on that, and it's a good reminder for me to do the same. I like to hold my cat like a baby, take walks to the park with my son, listen to good music, blog, spend time with a good friend who can relate with my grief, plan our vacation, sit and think about heaven, look for something that I can get done imediately and get it done, plan get togethers with good close friends, work on getting our yard to look nice again.

  3. maddie, i started running.. and i also hang out with my puppies.. i got them after matilda was born and somehow when i look into their eyes when im feeling blue i know that they see my pain and try to make me feel better.. and my cats too.. they give me hugs.. when im blue.. *hugs*

  4. yes. i'm so glad to hear that you are making the effort to take care of yourself. i don't often feel like it, but it's important.

    i go for my first acupuncture appointment on friday. i'm really nervous but also really looking forward to it.

    the other thing i've done - on the three-month anniversary, after crying for 20 minutes in work and barely managing to stay there for the 2 hour minimum i was due to do that day, i went to a drop-in place for a manicure. it felt a bit ridiculous, but it was letting someone do something nice for me (albeit paying them to do so) and gave me an opportunity to stop, sit still and switch off. i don't think i'll make a habit of it, but if i have another really horrible day i'll do it again if i can.