What do other people do when they're faced with this question?
I've been guilty of asking people this in the past but I doubt I would now. This experience has opened my eyes to a whole world of pain and longing I didn't know was so big. Not just baby loss but also infertility. I think if people have kids, your not going to have talk for long before they bring them up. Having said that, I'm sure we're going to face this question over and over.